The Chase! Can’t he see how much I love him?

“If only the strength of the love that people feel when it is reciprocated could be as intense and obsessive as the love we feel when it is not, then marriages would be truly made in heaven.” Ben Elton

What do we mean when we say “I love you”? Who do we love? And why do we love someone who clearly has no love for us? Why is the chase so thrilling even when it is immensely painful?

We dress it up as love, but really we are infatuated with making them like us. We can control this by “doing something” to make them love us back. We…