I recently wrote an article suggesting that it can be detrimental to a marriage or relationship if women give up on their appearance or regular sex. I was unprepared for the storm that followed and the comments I received, including this one: “if my husband expects me to look good when I am at home, I will serve him divorce papers with his dinner. I was quite puzzled by the militant, almost uniform responses, bar a few lone voices who agreed that appearance and sex were quite important in a relationship.

I recently watched “The Children Act” where Emma Thompson is playing a very busy judge…